1. No one will be in a relationship with someone they do not respect .... her actions show she does not respect you currently.
2. This is a Cake-Eat Buffet for her, she can come and go and spend her fun time with OM while you pay the bills and wait for her to make up her mind ... why would she stop at this point ... there must be consequences for our actions and from what I read there just aren't any.
3. Until you stand up for yourself, set and hold some boundaries .. she will continue to do as she wishes. You are afraid that if you stand up to her you will lose her but I am here to tell you that by not standing up for yourself she will be gone regardless ... it will just be a much slower and painful death.
4. At some point you are going to have to make a hard decision, we all know this current set up is not what you want but in the spirit of trying to 'save' your M you are not wanting to rock the boat .... You must decide stand up now for yourself ... or continue feeding her the cake and being miserable.
Change does not happen until there is enough pain that we are forced to change ... you have to decide when you have suffered enough in order to grow.
