Rouky, I agree. Although I'm not sure if husband was having affairs. Never proof, but ex was expert at keeping everything private and I was too overwhelmed with things to really investigate. He had trouble performing though, so that might be the only reason. I'm not sure though. Maybe he had trouble performing just with me?
I am glad you are being more firm with husband. I have that mom guilt and he exploits it. (he does that with his mom as well) I worry I am not a good mom if I refuse.
I ended up keeping my plans for New Years eve weekend, but in a passive way not in a direct way. Still a start.
