Vanilla, I never thought of my husband as the vengeful, spiteful type that would consciously and deliberately withdraw affection, and engagement. I can understand someone being depressed, or under stress....which is what I was telling myself the year or 2 before BD.
But these were his exact words after a fight over me asking for child support early after he left.
"Nothing will change for you. It's not like you have had my affection".
I always think about these words. And it does show a conscious and deliberate knowledge of disengagement.
I really don't understand that or a person that would do that, yet not communicate with me. I know I shouldn't waste time trying to understand how's or whys, but seriously. That's pretty f'd up.
