Waywards do come back. First step: LET GO

[PsySara]

Hey BluWave,

I find your story an inspiration, not because your WH came back but because how honest you have been about your struggle to detach and how it prolonged your ability to heal. This week has been a bit of a light bulb moment for me. I had to take a long, hard look at myself in the mirror and face the demon of my fear and rage of being alone. My enmeshment with WH, my codependence has fed that fear and turned me into a weak and needy woman. That was NOT the person my WH met. More importantly tht is NOT the person I want to remain.

So I went back to the books and started to read about codependent behavior, narcissistic people (WH has a lot of traits) and also some other self help sites. IT has been eye opening. I am now reclaiming myself and have come to the conclusion I don't want WH back unconditionally. If he decides to come back to the marriage then there will be conditions and boundaries. If he continues to be wayward then I need to cut him loose and to thin own self be true. Your words and wisdom have been very helpful getting me to this point. Thank you.