Out of ideas - advice?

[LiM]

2016,

I went LRT before BD #1. I knew something was terribly wrong in my M and the LRT immediately spoke to me. I had been reading the book for a couple of days when I got to that section and I KNEW it was for me. I deployed it immediately and basically told my W I was. I told her "I know you are at a place in your life when you have to make decisions for what is best for and I'm ok with that." She told me "Ya, but you're going to sit around and just be angry and depressed." I told her "I have a choice to make. I can choose to do that or I can choose to not be angry and depressed and instead work on myself. I choose to do that." The look on her face was priceless. She was dumbfounded. Unfortunately, it was only a couple of hours later that I discovered the A from my spying. Has I not found the book and this process, I would have completely lost it. Instead, I was able to remain focused. I had a plan and I was going to stick to it. When it came to BD #2, I filed for D. As it turns out, that is was changed everything around.

I will say that the best thing you can do to save your M, if thats what you want, is to LET HIM GO. Move on and let him see that you are moving on and becoming better without him. If he wants to be a part of your life, he's going to have to up his game and be a better person himself. The ball is now in HIS court.

Keep your responses to him brief. What you are doing when he messages you is exactly what you should be doing. Keep him guessing. Dont let him see that you are hurting.

When I finish this post, I'm going to head over to my thread and post an update because I'm not just right at 1 year since BD #1.