She moved out...now the work begins...Part 4

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So, with the little that I know about you, I do think you are allowing her to cake eat and so she doesn't feel the loss of you. If she has moved out and is filing for D, then why are you spending the holidays with her and having family time?

I am not being condescending, but I am truly wondering. If she finalized the D and has an OM, then would you still want this family time? Or are you only having family time in hopes that she will come back around? I think you should really think about this!

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I guess nobody knows for sure, but our MC mentioned that she felt that MLC was the case. Not to mention that I feel like alot of the signs are there, but again I say nobody knows for sure.

I agree that I probably am allowing her to cake eat a bit, but I am working on that. My son said that she had asked him if she should ask to stay the night on Christmas Eve...he told her that it probably not a good idea...he is tougher that I am.

And NO to your question on what would I do after the D is finalized. She feels that we will be friends even though I have told her that that will not happen afterwards. We have always had a great friendship and it truly hurts that I have lost both the spousal relationship as well as the friendship, but that is something that I am working on.

I guess you are right in that I do have hopes that she will realize what is missing and come back around, but I am trying to figure out. Somehow I have to get my head around making me better and not worrying about her at all. Again, I pray for her daily, but I have to leave her in God's hands right now.