That helps - I was getting confused about the goal of getting back in the MBR then being too accommodating.
Today has been a bad day on that front - I have been way too accommodating. OK, I did refuse to buy her some things when we took our D out to the city to spend her Christmas money, but she then asked me to go back in with her bank card and buy them while she waited with D outside.
I know that I am not helping the situation, in fact I am facilitating by continuing this weak stance. Your words about getting grounded strike a chord. I don't feel grounded at the moment.
I'll give a full response in the morning, I need to sleep and get my head straight for now.
-- Me: 47 WW: 35 SS: 17 D: 5 T: 7 yrs Engaged: 2 yrs OEA confirmed: August 17 2016 ongoing since April 2016. OEA continues (with occasional breaks) BD2 - W says will visit OM in Jan 18
