Thank you so much for responding! I know I should have hung up as soon as she started in. She was doing exactly as you discribed. As soon as I wouldn't give in she started screaming that I'm controlling! I believe it's too late for us to start over but I hope others listen to your advice. My situation has moved so fast and I expect her not to talk anymore now that lawyers are involved. At this point I don't see her ever having feelings except anger towards me.
It's been so hard not to call/text anything today for Christmas! It's been a horrible day for me. She's also deleted me from Snapchat today and liked several of MY friends Facebook posts. Almost like she's doing it on purpose to upset me.
I never thought the woman I feel in love with, purchased the house she wanted last year, gave her a 10k ring just in February, took on a very expensive honeymoon in Jane, can just walk away.... it blows my mind!!!
I get more texts from her this morning asking if she can go through the Christmas ornaments. I just responded she can have them because I don't want the memories. Guess I was mad. It may have hurt her feelings as she responded that she's sorry that I feel that way. She went on to say she would like me to review her list of our joint assets to split and to try to do with lawyer costs. So then again, no slowing down for her.
Just waiting on the papers. I did tell her if felt like we gave up on each other too soon. I know that was a mistake.
Been a long week. Haven't heard much except a few emails about her phone and other small items. I didn't respond as I've already told her I'm not doing anything until a formal process has started. I'm sure she's angry about that. One minute I feel fine with everything then the next I start missing her. I hate the feelings I have.
Like others on here, I question everything that has happened. She shows nothing towards me and that is hard to deal with. When will I stop missing her? Does she miss me like I miss her? How is she handling this so easily and seem ok? It drives me crazy.
Is she asking for half of everything? Or in others more than she brought into the marriage? Could be a case of a gold digger cashing in, would explain the lack of emotions. Has she had any traits that would indicate a gold digger?
I only ask these things because of the way she wants to expedite without benefit of council to protect your assets. I would think it only fair to split according to what each brought into the marriage and not 50/50 since it was only a few months. Like the house, you bought it before marriage at her insistence, does she want half of it?
It's just really strange to dump someone after a few months of marriage after living together for a few years. It's not like you became a different person after the wedding is it? Did you change? Who started the marriage talk? How were things before the wedding? Before the engagement?
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5
Pre marital assets are not divided halfsies... As is not inheritence.
Do not get railroaded. Do not sign anything without talking to a lawyer...
Originally Posted By: bsb
Like others on here, I question everything that has happened. She shows nothing towards me and that is hard to deal with. When will I stop missing her? Does she miss me like I miss her? How is she handling this so easily and seem ok? It drives me crazy.
Look, the fact of the matter is not even she knows what she feels, let alone why she is feeling the way she does. Stop trying to get into her head, it will drive you bonkers. One place you do not want to visit is without a doubt MLCers brain. There is no sense to be made from trying to figure her out, bout you have derived that by know. I know you currently feel that your W is different, she is not. And no, she will not just snap out of it. You need to get your ass in gear and start moving. You are missing living a life as you keep fixating on the dingbat that used to be your W.
Stay strong buddy, 2017 will be better than 2016...
Hey bsb, haven't stopped by in a while and thought I'd check in. Sorry to hear you're still struggling so much, brother. Wish there was some way to help you out, but we all just have to work to pull ourselves out the funk when it hits. I hope you stick to getting a L. As Vapo said, don't get railroaded.
Keep your head up; it really will get better!
Me: 35 W: 32 MR: 2y T: 3.5y SS11 BD: 11/3/16 EA: 10/26/16 PA: 11/11/16 W asks for S/D & ILYBINILWY 11/13/16 Status: I moved out 11/19/16, GAL I filed for D: 12/14/16 D-day: 3/10/17
Thanks everyone. I get to work this morning and get a email saying she's filing today. More financial stuff that is making me mad which I'm not forwarding to my lawyer
No, I don't think she's a gold digger as it's not like it's 100ks of dollars. My lawyer nor anyone else understands her motives.
I didn't become any different and she didn't either. She's the one that wanted to get married so quick. I was fine waiting. I think a lot of this is her age. She's only 24 and has a lot of growing up to do!!
I took a step back from here the last couple weeks. I feel like I've been doing ok. Just trying to get all my financial information together for my attorney. Up till last night I haven't heard from wife except one email on items. She text hi and after I didn't respond she text again asking if I've had time to review the personal items (wedding gifts, other items) she emailed me about. I just responded that I will respond in the next few days after i talk to my attorney.
This got me down again last night and again today. First time I've felt sad in a week or so. I'm getting so angry that she's doing this but then it just hits me with a wall of emotions and I break down crying. I miss all the times we had together.
So just as soon as I feel like I'm over the hump I get pulled back in
