She moved out...now the work begins...Part 4

[SBJ]

I read from someone that for some, they have to completely go thru with the D before anything changes. I have also resigned myself to the fact that this is her D and she should do most of the heavy lifting. My greatest fear is that I have always told myself that I would "never" get a D because of the way my parents D affected me and my brothers...she is forcing this upon me, but also upon my kids. I simply don't want my kids to be damaged by this.

We have no control over what she is feeling or doing. As she has said in some of her spew...I cannot fix her. But as I have always said...I can love her thru all of this even if she doesn't want my love at the moment.