he changed the subject and told everyone who knows this other girl he went out with two nights ago that she text him and told him "Happy Festivus." They started talking about her some and he says "yeah, I actually just went out with her a few nights ago." My heart broke into a million pieces and luckily I had finished eating so I got up and went to the backroom and couldn't keep back the tears.
So it seems to me that he is using the fact that you had an emotional affair to have his own emotional affair.
Am I not hearing this correctly?
Why is it OK for him and not OK for you?
I keep saying there is more going on here.
Because in his book, it wasn't just an emotional affair. It was if he didn't "catch me", then I would have had a physical affair with OM. That's why I asked earlier, if it was "fair" for him to treat the situation as if I actually slept with or even touched OM, when it didn't go there.
On the other hand, this girl has been our friend for a long time...his way before I came on the scene. She's the "only one" he can talk to about this and even though I'm not comfortable with it being her, I don't think she's feeding him any bad advice. From what he tells me, she will continue to be "our" friend, whatever he decides. So I don't think to him its an emotional affair. He wouldn't talk to her the same way I talked to OM. OM and I were feeding each other compliments on our looks. He would never have that kind of conversation with this girl.
The only reason he brought her up during dinner is because he knows that it bothers me that he's leaning on her for support and he was trying to get at me. I really don't think he cares for her any more than as a friend.
