Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 7

[skyhigh]

What a great symbol of GAL, parking your own car showed your newly independence from him, no words, just actions. Beautiful ! I am pretty sure somebody is going to be very puzzled tonight.
So proud of you!

Don't worry about his absence of "appropriate communication", all MLCers do that. Just ignore it but it doesn't mean you have to accept a lack of respect (verbal abuse, spew, or OW). That's why you need boundaries to be put in place and have the consequences clearly spelled out.
e.g.:
_ if you want to see OW (aka enjoy some fun) please move out first I won't stop you, I cannot and don't want to control you but I cannot tolerate that lack of respect.
- if you have any contact (messages or meetings) with OW behind my back and I become aware of it, I will deliver your luggage to your clerk at your office and send a general email to your friends to explain the situation because I won't take the blame.

Also make sure you don't tolerate any abusive comments , leave the room as soon it starts and go dark. Later on, let him now whatever the consequences you might think of.
It is not about control it is about regaining control of your own dignity.
Enjoy your kids, they need you. They are learning love , empathy and how to be treated and treat others through you...
Stay informed whatever you feel is needed for your protection, sadly I saw so many women being shortsighted by their cheating husbands and it was too late. I learned from my "sisters".
Myself staying informed helped me to learn OW1 was back with WH 4 months after DB 1, pushing him to leave me and the children and move across the country and abandoned us. Nothing wrong to know your enemies' plans unless you like being a victim and suffer another martyrdom. Life is a choice. And sincerely the kids and I had rather enough being abused verbally and walking on eggshells without knowing what to expect next.