Help - boundaries. Am I doing th ewrong thing?

[Woke_Up]

I'd say yes, the majority of them. Doesn't stop him pushing them all the time then getting the consequences.

I've just gone back and re-read your LBS thread, Sandi, and it looks like I've done the opposite of what I should have done. In effect I have managed to unseparate our sleeping arrangements - whereas I should have actually enforced the separateness and cut off the affection that I show. I now think that I should have stuck with my plan of taking the study as my space, my room - I wasn't in the MBR anyway, nothing of mine is in here, has never been in here, as since moving to this house, W pretty much claimed the available space and my things were put in the spare room - I didn't think it was an issue at the time, as it meant I wouldn't disturb her when I got up early for work.

Ashamed to admit I have been a total p##sy since we came to this house.

The reason I worry about separation is 2 fold:
1. The kids. I won't see them as much/be there for them.
2. Financial - it will be really difficult to afford somewhere decent where I can have D or S stay over, and DBing didn't recommend moving out. W has no income of her own other than through 'working' for my company ( I'm self employed) - she is also a shareholder of it. This made sense for tax reasons but makes it difficult to separate finances - I effectively provide all income to the household, she takes care of home and D while I am out at work. The same reason it makes it difficult for me not to enable her EA. she gets money for the shopping or housebtnings or whatever - that can easily go to cover her phone costs or even internet connection costs if she so desired.

She has always maintained she still loves me throughout this and has maintained affection/sex life etc. I can see I am quite often confusing trying to be a better man with trying to be a better H.