Help - boundaries. Am I doing th ewrong thing?

[Woke_Up]

Bippy

And that's where I began with this thread - I can't think of a suitable consequence for this boundary.

And honestly, I'm not going to stop feeling disrespected if she goes out of the house to communicate, because let's face it, carrying on with the EA is very disrespectful.

And last time, by blocking the skype connection, people have said that I was in fact being controlling, as I was making it about her rather than me.

So what to do. She knows I'm not happy. Earlier when she tried to kiss me and I wasn't overly responsive she asked what the matter was and I said it was her continuing disrespect to me & the family. She lied about it but I told her not to bother lying as it just devalued her and me.

Anyway, she just asked if I wanted to ML and I said no. She asked why and I Said because she was disrespecting me and the kids. Again she said she wasn't, but then she left it.

I think the only boundary I can have is not acting like I am in a MR with her - it is difficult because we live together, have children, etc etc.

I get Sandi's points - this has been going on way before the EA, and I need to address it.