Blu ~ I think you are a lifeline for a lot of people because you reclaimed your marriage, so to speak, but also perhaps blinders for others.

It's just a fact of life that many times, a partner is deficient morally, spiritually, and many other areas. And without said partner who is willing to fix their deficiencies on their own, it isn't gonna happen.

So, just injecting a bit of common sense here.

“You only lose what you cling to.” – Buddha