ffs Ghost. You have been alone for what, 19 months? That will change when you stop thinking about her, not when you find another woman or get her back(that's not happening, sorry to be so blunt)
"and persuade her to work on the marriage"
What marriage, Ghost? There is no marriage, it died long ago and its not coming back. You have to accept that and let it go. Give yourself permission to let this idea go of saving it. You are wasting your life hanging onto this now. Please, let her go.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
