Hi Gordie. Thanks for stopping by. I will certainly check out your threads. So your W is in her 5th year of MLC? I can't imagine how hard that must be for you. I am very sorry.
I tend to be direct in my communication, and perhaps too generous with 2*4s, but I can't help but wonder if this is less of a MLC and more that she has just changed? People do change, unfortunately not always for the better.
Blu--thank you so much for the 2x4 and the comments about the kids; I don't know if this is MLC or just a permanent change, I really don't, but her behavior checks more of the MLC boxes than just a WAW or WW, so the MLC advice has been the most relevant to me. Either way, it seems the only healthy path forward is to detach and let go...so much easier said than done.
Hi Gordie,
It is hard. This may be the hardest thing you ever do! ... However, as with any other obstacle in life, the more work put in, the greater the reward at the end. You can do this, you can detach, but you can't force it. The more you allow yourself to focus on other things and relationships, overtime it will get easier. You may even find that these other more positive things and people, do bring you more happiness.
We teach others how to treat us. So stand up tall, treat yourself with kindness, and don't ever settle for less than you deserve. You will attract others that see you the same way, but not until you can learn to see yourself this way first!
As I started to feel better about myself, and H saw that I wouldn't put up with being treated poorly, he realized he needed to get his act together or he would be the one missing out!
Happy holidays! Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
