Hi Bttrfly yes I have sent many a prayer over the last year and a half.
XW did message me a hateful message. oh the joy of a Christmas MLCer. I guess whe had to get one last one out before she leaves the country to go to Florida for the week.
" Irish, I have a collector calling me for 800$, It was in my name and was the cell phone bill for the girls that I cancelled. I guess you don't give a s**t and I cant count on you to pay it. You are such a gentleman."
I replied. " sorry about your financial dilemma. You left and cancelled those services. You should of cancelled the account. It was in your name, I had no information on that account. With all the money you stole and the money from me buying the house from you. It should of been paid off."
she writes in capital letters. " THANKS, HAVE A GOOD DAY!!!!"
very warm message. Also no message to the girls as she had promised to wish them a merry Xmas. So I presume her frustration is boiling over and the girls will not get that much needed email.
Warning Florida. MLCr in your area for the week of the 24th.
M51 XW43 (38 at bd) BD1 MAY 30 2015 BD2 JUNE 25 2015 by text moved out Aug 2 2015 left both Daughters 13 and 15 (now 18-20) Her divorce Final July 26 2016 Last time she saw her kids Aug 2 2015
I'm so sorry that your MLCer came out to play. She had to get one more dig in because she's miserable and she wants you to be too. I agree, she should have cancelled the entire account that the girls had and not just the services. This one is on her. After all, it is in her name, not yours.
She may still email the girls, but it won't be for a while. She needs to continue stewing for a bit. Truth darts are hitting her right between the eyes. If she's got money to travel to Florida, she's got money to pay the bill...
Irish, may you and your family have a peaceful and happy holiday season.
Merry Christmas!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I always seem to feel better when xh is out of state. It's an energetic I guess ... wishing you that same peace xoxoxox
you're right, of course, about it being her bill to pay, and it's probably the only thing she can think of to work up a lather over. she's invested in being the victim right now. what a sad way to live!
be grateful you aren't her and enjoy this weekend with your girls and extended family and friends xoxoxoxo sending hugs
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Merry Christmas to you all. Amazing people and just so many to name. Love you all like family.
I just got back from a quiet pre Christmas gathering at my parents. With my 3 brothers and all the kids and spouses, minus mine.
I'll be honest, this year I find it tougher than last. Last year I was still in a state of shell shock. Last year, I was trying to keep it as traditional as possible and start a few new traditions for us.
This year , even with all the %#&@ I got from my XW these last 2 months. I miss her.
I miss us coming home from my parents and relaxing before the Big Bang of excited kids on the morning of the 25th.
It was our time to recharge. To be together and enjoy Christmas. To get excited about the kids opening their presents. I'd make her her coffee and sit in front of the fireplace and just enjoy that time together.
She's not here, I still want to make her the coffee. So I did. Put it on the table and said a prayer for her.
I'll be ok. Christmas is so exciting and busy this is all but a cycle of emotions that I will feel and then let go
Merry Christmas again.
Irish
M51 XW43 (38 at bd) BD1 MAY 30 2015 BD2 JUNE 25 2015 by text moved out Aug 2 2015 left both Daughters 13 and 15 (now 18-20) Her divorce Final July 26 2016 Last time she saw her kids Aug 2 2015
May God bless you and you family. May he also continue to grace you with his peace and strength to continue for your kids.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
I know what you mean - last year I was truly shell shocked ... had just buried my Godmother, signed a p&s on our home, just wanted to keep things as normal as possible for my son. Normal, makes me laugh. How normal can it be when one of your parents has gone off the deep end? Still, we do our best for our children. Not many exemplify that more than you, mon ami.
This year is more difficult in some ways for me also, and in others a bit easier ... I know what you mean about missing the partner. I"m glad you made the coffee for her and said a prayer. Every Christmas Eve we go to Mass with dear friends, then spend the evening at their house. I couldn't face it last year. My son and I decided to join them this year. There was someone missing, but it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. My friend and her family are so warm and loving, I feel like I'm part of the group and there was a lot of joy and laughter.
This morning was a different story. It's ok. We will all get through this. As you said, feel it and let it go. Say a prayer for them and cherish what we do have xoxoxo Joyeux Noel, Irish!
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
And about that $800 cell phone bill, that's interesting. My son's phone is on the fritz and we are upgrading his. There are some very bad deals to be had out there and if you don't read the fine print you can be stuck with a nasty bill if you break the terms of those contracts.
Anyway, I am wishing you all the very best in 2017.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
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