Totally. This is such valuable advice. I've got my DR book by my bedside and I've realised I've forgotten to delete the browser history off my laptop which is at home while I'm out of the country, so I've asked a friend to pop in and take it back to hers so the WH can't get his hands on it.
LiM - I'm sitting here reading going through your posts - what a ride! I can totally relate to the multiple BDs - in my case I think this year alone there were 4 - first in May when I discovered what I thought was just an EA with OW3, then evidence of PA with OW3 came in July, then new OW4 turns up beginning Sep, then evidence he never stopped with OW4 in November despite promising to. I have always said it and I maintain it still - the lying is worse than the affairs. It's traumatic. In a way I can forgiven the affairs easier than I can forgive the lying.
I've also experienced becoming stronger in my faith through this which was unexpected - though raised Catholic I have always been agnostic. But WH is a diehard atheist. He thinks religion is for weakminded silly people. So I don't have that to bring him back to his senses. His overriding rule is what feels good is right : (
