Thanks so much to everyone that posted back! You guys are amazing!
Cadet - thanks so much for the comprehensive post, you've given me a proper induction. I have the Divorce Remedy book and have been dipping in and out but find it painful to read it from the beginning because so much of it is based on the premise that your spouse is still living with you. It's a painful reminder of how much I've lost : (
skm0619 - thanks for the support. It's really good to know I'm not alone in this. Will try to figure out how to look up posts and will look at yours.
LiM - I smiled when I read your post. Bring on 2017! I cannot wait to see this year gone. I am totally intrigued by your assertion that LRT does work - I can see from your signature you've had a really rocky ride this last year. Did you go to LRT straight away or was it after 2nd BD? Sorry I am new to forums and have to figure out how to look up your posts. Btw, my WH is not interested in counselling anymore. At the moment he is completely sticking to being happy with his OW.
At the moment I am in Singapore with my family - got here yesterday. My WH has our son for X'mas - he extracted a promise from me months ago that if we split up he could have him for the holidays. Looking back now it makes me think he never intended to work on the marriage. I have gone dark. The only person I am communicating with is his mother - she is facilitating the daily FaceTime sessions with my son who is staying with her for X'mas.
WH is sending me pictures of our son everyday, which I would normally have read hope into but I've just spent the afternoon with my best friend who's whacked that idea right out of my head. She understands WH better than I do because they are both conflict avoidant and she is totally convinced WH has zero intention of ever returning and is only being nice to me because that is what he values - niceness.
I don't know how to respond to the pictures he's sending, so I've just gone for a simple 'Thanks'. The impression he has of me at the moment, which he's also painted to his OW seems to be that I am an evil horrible witch, even though I've been loving and giving for the last few months. I don't want to give him any ammunition. Being polite is important to WH.
I am going to definitely stick to LRT and also will be focussed 100% on GAL. I don't have a choice really. For anybody new who's reading this, forget with the reasoning and trying to make them stay. It really doesn't work : (
