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Hi Altair, I'm sorry to hear about your recent health scare and that convo with your H, and big hugs from me Sweetie. (((((Hugs)))))

I agree with the lovely ladies above. When MLCers get pressured (ie: feeling difficult emotions, us wanting something from them) they can get nasty. That's what your H was doing I think. Rather than deal kindly and positively with the situation, he want into critical, ranting mode, which really wasn't helpful....and is all about him and what he can't deal with right now.

Here's my fluffy 2x4 for you my lovely. He just doesn't have it to give right now, and I think relying on good friends is better than relying on support from him. Because, likelihood is you will feel disappointed and upset again, as you did after this convo. Things may change in time, but you have seen how it is for now with him.

Maybe next time, you could drop him a quick email if you want to keep him in the loop. But for now, I would go very dim. Fine if you want to briefly wish him a nice Xmas, but other than that, please do leave him to it and reach out to friends if you need support.

Do you have any Xmas plans my lovely? I will drop in on the forums over the next couple of days and see how you are doing.

Take care xx