I've been doing a lot better till today. I found out she is in the process of filing. I don't know why but it hit me all over again. I've been really sad and I broke down for the first time in weeks.
I've been doing a lot better till today. I found out she is in the process of filing. I don't know why but it hit me all over again. I've been really sad and I broke down for the first time in weeks.
I guess it shows how much I love her in the end
How did you find that out? Also, do you have your own lawyer now? I'm going to be honest and say that its probably going to get a bit worse before it gets better. Remember, one foot in front of the other. That's all you can do. Take care of yourself, first and foremost.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I found out she's talking to a lawyer and yes I have one when needed.
I agree with getting worse... it got a lot worse today. She called, I knew I shouldn't answer but i did. She went off on me over and over about how I'm being controlling and not helpful on things she's asked about. So much hate and anger... I thought after not talking for several weeks she would have calmed down. I just don't understand why??
Buddy, you are trying to make sense of something that cannot be logically explained. This effort will get you spinning, so stop trying to rationalize it. Just accept the fact that she has issues that she needs to resolve herself, you have no say in it...
Vapor is correct... It's been 11 months since bed for me and her anger escalates...she moved out in April...it is her and her alone. Stay focused on you.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
She called, I knew I shouldn't answer but i did. She went off on me over and over about how I'm being controlling and not helpful on things she's asked about. So much hate and anger... I thought after not talking for several weeks she would have calmed down. I just don't understand why??
Why would you listen to her berating you? Anger is a symptom of a wayward wife. The only thing you can expect from her is illogic behavior. I wish H's of a WW would realize he is hurting the possibility of R, by standing there and allowing her to verbally vomit on him. Don't argue with her, but don't take what she says. Hang up, walk away, etc. She doesn't get to treat you badly just b/c you happen to be married.
Time to stand up and stop taking the bullying.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
By the way, the WW's favorite two cards to play are guilt and control. She will either guilt you into what she wants or she start screaming that you are controlling. Both cards are her tools of manipulation.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
