Are you going to the party? I hope you feel comfortable enough to go. Evidently she doesn't appear to mind if you go. It would be a good time to show her the new and improved you w/all of you self confidence, etc.
I think the stocking stuffers you mentioned are great little gifts. They are useful and not very personable at all. Yes, I agree, the unmentionables should be out this year. There is always next year...if she wakes up and reconciles w/you.
If you decide to go to the party, have fun and be yourself.
