MLC W and preparing for S or D in the new year

[Dawgs]

The plan...and am working with the L how to get this in writing...is that I have the ability to see them EVERY DAY...even on days when they are sleeping at my W's house...

Hit submit too early...W says she wants/needs/is agreeable to me seeing them every day...the questions that you guys raised yesterday is how does all this work when one, three, five years from now...when who knows what happens...OM/OW/re-marriage, etc.

Gordie, my friend, it seems like you are putting all your eggs in one basket with her and the kids. While she may say she's agreeable, do you TRUST her? After all, you don't trust her about the OM, so what makes you think you can trust her now?

A little reasoning: this past Easter the exSIL came up. The exW told me to take the he kids out for the day...and when I was on the way home, I texted saying we'll be there soon. Immediately the response came back of "why don't you stay another few hours?" Red flags went up. So, I called a friend and he said something isn't right...take pictures of everything, the house, all of it. Which I did. When the proceedings came around, the first thing she did was pull out pictures of the house - in an unlivable state. Her sister and her staged the whole thing to have a better chance with getting the kids. My lawyer tore her a new one. Why am I telling you this? Because just as you said, my ex said she wants/needs/is agreeable to me seeing them everyday. JUST AS YOURS DID. But when it became game time, her true colors came out. Be prepared.

And, like you, I foolishly thought she'd never stoop that low - I, too, wanted to give her anything in the hopes of getting her back. But, just as with you, mine was done and wanted nothing to do with me at all. Period. I'm not saying this to be a jackass about custody and all, I just don't want you to come out on the losing end of it all.

Oh, and the OM coming up to you and telling you stuff? Just a little too convenient. Way too convenient.