I think everyone's foundation is there, inside ourselves. Some will never figure it out, though, perhaps because they don't have the capacity to do so.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)