Yes, the MLCers do think about us, family and traditions during the holidays. They may act and say differently, but they do think about what they've walked away from. In their passive aggressive way, they let us know, i.e., the card.
Keep the focus on you and your family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.