Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 7

[Surfer]

Sara,

Do something for the rage and despair. Find a friend to go out with and talk, run, dance etc. Can you get a baby-sitter??? IDK. you know what works best for you. Pop round Cherry's for a facial and nail evening and have a good chat, a glass of wine etc. Seriously - do something, even if its focussing on a christmassy feeling for the kids (even if its Act As If). I am struggling with what to say for you but you will know....

Forget what he is saying. He is feeling trapped and trying to get you to do the heavy lift. Just do exactly what you are good at - ignore what he is saying. If he wants a divorce, jog on WH - your journey. Telling you, you need a L, why did you ever want him now, he is such was such a good WH its contradictory and it is frankly gaslighting. Ignore him. He comes back slamming drawers - is it because he is happy? Surely he must be as he has laid out his plans, knows exactly what he wants and is happy with his choice. I always slam drawers when I am happy. Infact I think in "The Sound of Music" I seem to recall Maria Von Trapp saying this is one of her 'Favourite Things' just after whiskers on kittens.

Nah, meh!

If he does go, you would be fine. More than fine (I am). Just don't stress over it. Be kind to yourself. Ignore this teenagers behaviour. Go about your business, nothing to be seen here....

Surfer