Help - boundaries. Am I doing th ewrong thing?

[Surfer]

Okay. Read up on all this....apart from last 2 posts, I need more time for these.

Not sure I would give her a back rub. In my view she is temp checking and maki g sure you are still on the hook. Personally, I would have said, "Sorry. I don't feel like it."

Magnesium supplements and others can help with PMS. If she recognises the problem she should be active in preventing it. She may have had years of sprewing at you and others thinking this is just what you do because you ha e a period. To me that's horsesh!t. I am sure PMS is horrible. However, that's no excuse. I know al sorts of people with real chronic pain and they don't beat up on others. No, there's no excuse. If she uses that as an excuse next time, set a boundary. Tell her you hear that she is sorry but she had bad PMS but......other with chronic etc....so no that's not acceptable. Go get help, there are supplements the doctor can prescribe to prevent this. Tell her you won't tolerate it again and [insert an appropriate consequence - it needs to be related; i.e. Speak to me like that again and I will cut off a communication source for a week IDK V is better at this. Not set many boundaries yet.

I will revert when I have read your last 2 posts in detail.

Surfer.