I can see how you must have felt emotionally starved to hear him respond positivity and give you a compliment once in a while. I don't know what his issues are, but it is difficult for me to understand a man who doesn't want to compliment his own W.
Can you tell us about the MR in previous times? What were you like, what he was like, etc.
Would you say you had unmet expectations in the MR? What about the build up of resentment over a period of time? You must surely feel a lot of frustration, but I am not hearing bitterness and anger that a lot of women often experience before turning to another man.........maybe b/c we are mostly hearing remorse, ATM. Did you suffer from depression?
What about your feelings of respect toward your H? Have they declined over the years, and have you been guilty of showing little signs of disrespect for him (tone of voice, body language, etc.)? I am trying to see if these issues previously existed. You may not see what difference it would make, however, it would really help us to see that part about you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
