Deep down I'd love to witness her die a slow miserable death.
My brother said something similar about his X. Would you really want that to happen to the mother of your children? Anger can consume.
Originally Posted By: OFP
I want xW to realize what she gave up, how great she had it, I want her to want it back.... so that I then have the power.
That's ego talking. Yes, there is butt-hurt from being rejected, but does she need to realize anything for things to be good in your life? And what power do you want? I would suggest your really examine these feelings.
Originally Posted By: OFP
Not to use against her, but to make me feel like I actually have some control over my life, like I actually have a choice.
I'm confused by this. What control and choice do you not have? You just stated you have a GF you wished you'd married instead of XW. You seem to express how wonderful everything is with GF, so why does XW matter at all? Is this more ego or is this your desire to have control over your XW?
I apologize if these seem like harsh and critical comments and questions. I think these are items and issues most LBSs have to address after D (yes, I was guilty of similar things) to be truly happy and be ready for another relationship.
