There is no hope for a future with xW. I "think" she cheated, which in itself is unforgivable, though she still denies it. She covered it up by filing an order for protection. She lied in the OFP, to the point of accusing me of rape (which couldn't be further from the truth). She was greedy in mediation, insisting on getting everything that has anything to do with the kids, and it was held over my head that if I didn't agree I would have to pay her atty fees to fight it in court. I got the house, but on the way out she took a lot of stuff she shouldn't have, in case that she hadn't don enough yet. She had been telling my kids for years prior that I am mean to them, and in the OFP nhad only supervised visitation. I managed to get that squashed pretty quick.
This psycho I call xW has the full blown victim mentality, and needs guidance forced on her to do the right thing, whether it is a Guardian ad Litem, an atty or a judge. She couldn't even understand the OFP rules and kept claiming I was violating it.... not to the point of going to court, just enough to keep herself worked up. She continued badmouthing me to the kids for a while, someone must have told her to stop. Her mother continued for a while until I threatened to file an OFP against her. It's a hell of a mess.
I took the high road through this whole thing, tried to be fair, gave her a little more than I thought was fair even. I continue to take the high road, to try to do what is best for the kids. My techniques are an attempt to keep things civil. Deep down I'd love to witness her die a slow miserable death. I'd love to have my kids full time.
GF is the one I wish M'd in the first place. We have known each other since 3rd grade. We were great friends in elementary and partially into high school. She is an amazing person, and she tells me every single day how amazed she is with me. GF loves all the things that intimidated xW. For example, xW was intimidated by my intelligence, GF loves that I understand the things she talks about or is passionate about. I am an extremely affectionate person, but for 21 years xW pulled away, right from day 1. GF soaks it up and can't get enough. GF tells me all the time how amazed she is with my parenting methods, and wishes her kids had me as a father figure growing up, xW thought the kids weren't safe with me.
I think I may have a hidden agenda going on too..... I want xW to realize what she gave up, how great she had it, I want her to want it back.... so that I then have the power. Not to use against her, but to make me feel like I actually have some control over my life, like I actually have a choice. Sounds like a pipe dream, but I keep that in the back of my head.
