one thing to remember and this is difficult is we really can't control anything except our reactions..and then sometimes not even that we can't control people -places -things or outcomes --ever I have to admit -I still try
She is going to do whatever she thinks is best for her You will only know as time goes on control is an illusion
You have choices
she may be attracted to you more as you continue on your journey and change
and I know it is hard: You can stand for a while and try to live with her for as long as she stays-on her terms work on yourself, create a new life for you, allow her space, watch at a far distance they say that if the spouse stays in the home , the chances are better for full reconciliation ..but I have no experience with this -maybe Job would know the odds- this is the path many of us choose here at the start because it gives us time to really see which way the MLCer will go and at the same time, we can begin the grief process and make changes as needed to better ourselves..It is our journey too
the MLCer may choose to play instead of growing up many LBS choose to grow up and evolve..the payoff for this I believe for us is priceless so its not only about getting w back..Its about your future no matter where the M lands
other choice: you can ask her to leave..and she probably will.. and she will probably file and move on
each of us has to choose what is best I waited the first 2 years I tried, I watched, I grieved, I changed ,I raised my kids I learn new business skills, I went to therapy every week This time gave me time to process the split , and learn my new responsibilities and take charge of my new life alone- It also gave me time to be with my xh and see what the future would bring In my case my XH chose to marry the OW and they are still M I also moved on after the 2 years-
if its MLC it may take a while you can take your time and see what is best
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
