Sp, to shorten this up. My W had started becoming friends with guys all of a sudden. We fought about it, we went through a tough patch of her not being around. She is fighting anxiety and PPD. She is on alot of antidepressants and has used antidepressants most of our married life. She says she hasnt been happy for a long time and thought it was her and now she just thinks it is our marriage. We have been married 9 years, have 2 kids, and been together for 16. When we dated, I cheated on her and never told her. She found out when we were married and I lied to protect our marriage. I finally admited and she says that changed her. that was maybe 4-5 years ago when i admited it. We have been in couples counselling, and she says she has tried to make it work. I have done everything possible. She told me she wants to move out, and file separation papers. I have read the entire book and done everything. The only thing I feel pretty firm on is when she moves out I don't know if I want to try our marriage again. I don't feel its fair for her to be done with our marriage in her mind and then come back when its convenient, i have been an emotional rollercoaster.
She says she looks at me like her best friend, but not as a husband. How does someone go from having children together to best friends. I told her I could not be her best friend if she was leaving me. Is that wrong?
