It's funny, as I was thinking exactly what Westo then wrote - was going to say it myself. First off we are all on your side here, we want you to succeed not beat you up. Thing is, many of us don't see ourselves like others do. Controlling? Us? Hell no, in fact you "let her" do what she's wanted to. You "let her" did you? You don't even see the irony in that statement, and now will likely say, that's not what you meant, but oh it is.

No two ways around it, the MLC and WAW do all sorts of really bad and destructive things but even so, it takes two to run a M off into the ditch. She wants to go out but you are not going to allow that - right! Sounds like her father but who wants to F their father?

The best thing you can do, just as others have tried to tell you, is BACK THE HELL OFF on all of this. Or... Do you really love and want to be M to this woman or just not want to be alone? Even when asked you can't tell us what you loved about her. Clearly at the moment there is far less to love but about when you met, when you first married? What attracted her to you?

I'm just saying if some of us can feel it in your written words, she has to feel it in person. How much fun are you to live with? We all have to look at these things about ourselves, even in the face of a WAW/MLC doing really bad things.


DonH
Midwest
Me 56
WAW-EXW 55
Met 11/95 / Married 5/00
Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06
4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D