Ok, well, her view that you don't make enough money to make her secure is awful!! Your worth is not tied to the zeros behind your name. Other people do not determine your worth.
The WAW or MLCer will ALWAYS view the LBS as controlling. But, honestly, your arguing about her going out is controlling as she is separate from you and hard as it is, free to make awful choices. You control how you react but you can't control her.
Can you tell us all what you do like about her? What was good in your relationship prior to this? Was she meeting your emotional needs?
Lastly, if she goes out and flirts in front of you, why put yourself through that torture?
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
