As the new year begins, my marriage will end

[HaWho]

Oh no! The more you talk to her the worse things will get in that she will perceive you as further trying to control her. This is why I asked if you've done all he reading. Look at Sandi's rules!

Herein lies the problem: emotionally and mentally she is a teen BUT with all the rights of an adult woman in a free, westernized country. She is not doing anything illegal. She has every right to behave very badly. She has free will.

My advice? Politely (no passive aggressive or confrontational behavior) tell her you have other plans on Friday and tell her to have fun (and be genuine). Then, go out and do something by yourself and don't question her about her night.

I know you want to go out with her, probably to "bond," but you said yourself it leads to arguments. Most likely you are not detached enough to go and hang out with no expectations. And who could blame you as this is all pretty new.

Just my humble opinion.