Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 7

[Vanilla]

Sweetheart of course he is the victim in his own eyes, or he is faking it, or he knows or its deliberate or he really cares or he is infested with an alien

WH has decided his M is over, you have decided its not

The reality is both are true

It is as it is and yes this is referred to as shattering that is really a term for this type of destruction and you can't change it

What matters is you and your children

The only true way through this abuse is by going NC immediately. I wish I could tell you how to walk away and go tell him to use implements where the Sun don't shine.

I don't know, all I can tell you is that which works for me and that is NC, completely totally and exclusively pitch black NC.

Sara please take care of you and your health. It is trauma as it has been going on so long and its a sort of addiction, Stockholm Syndrome. Trauma Bonding, there will be time to discover why you find your WH so addictive.

It's tough to accept that WH isn't an imposter that the WH you knew is the imposter. Today this WH is the real one, and you have seen the truth, heard the truth and are angry at it.

Please find some self care, put you first.

I will keep checking in Sara, please post as much as you need.

It's the way it is and all you feel and think is absolutely natural and normal for the process.

Big hugs

V