I wanted to swing by here and offer up some additional thoughts to Ellie's laser-sharp observations. Here's another thing to keep in mind when dealing with your MLCer who is fluctuating between boy-man is that he's really tentative when putting himself "out there" in terms of opening up in HIS OWN way. I deeply suspect that he's terrified of being rejected by you as evidenced by the numerous re-created scenarios from his childhood.
Try sprinkling some 180s in this regard and monitor H's reactions for they will reveal where he currently is at this point in the MLC journey from the emotional standpoint.
I would suggest that you try and implement this specific 180 during your trip out East because being around family is a perfect hypothesis to base off this experiment. I'd be willing to bet that you'll be fairly surprised at the results.
