Hi HaWho - I too am keen to find out what the present is..maybe your very own extension for your room??

Seriously though - I do think KML is spot on with her posting. And I think of those questions - do I want to be right or happy? Does this get me closer to my goal.

So, when he makes some kind of effort to connect, he gets a negative reaction, due to previous stuff that happened...I do think your reaction is yours to own and work on.

I can understand of course, and I watch in admiration as I can not imagine living with someone going through all of this. So, please read my post with that in mind too.

I think greater detachment would help. It is your own hurt about previous stuff - ie: expectations of yours that were not met etc - that is leading to your current reaction. But of course, if you can have no...or very low expectations, the hurt may be less...and your reaction more positive...etc..

Just my thoughts on reading your post and the replies anyway. Do take some time to relax and regroup over Xmas.

Xx

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