What I'm saying is that in 10 years, you're going to have company in your boat. You'll probably add a few very close friends. And if they ultimately reconcile, there will be hardships in marriages among your friends. Of my core college friends (there are 4 of us), only one is truly happily married. Two of us are divorced and one is status quo (her husband is miserable, though). So... don't think that you will be the odd man out for the rest of your life, okay?
What has seriously rocked me is that they ARE jumping in my boat. They are in it, but not the same way I got in it, if you get what I mean. They chose to get in it. It's sooooo hard to watch and understand and empathize with.
I haven't felt anger in a long time. And you are so right, I need to pay attention to it. I need to use it for growth. That's exactly what I'm going to do.
Again, very genius advice on choosing what DB principles to use to live by. I'm using them to try to help friends, but let me tell you, it doesn't work for other people who don't know what it's about. They think you are a little nuts or "strict" But I am going to use personally what helped me in conjunction with strong intuition. I let my DB background get into way too deep of analysis. hence where the innocence is lost.
Funny enough, the one thing I probably do that is till innocent is I go into a new relationship or whatever they have been in my lives on a basis of trust. new people get a clean slate and I leave the baggage of what my ex did at the relationship door as far as cheating. If it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen, and I am not going to live waiting for it or trying to stop it.
And to close off my too much rambling, I am glad you aren't forcing yourself to be happy, Sounds like the holiday seasons have been enjoyable. Take it all in. it feels good. Maybe there has been a shift.
