That is the hard part...we all have expectations, but I guess you are right in that I need to keep mine to zero. I know that this is a long prospect with a very low percentage of success, but I also have to have hope. That is the problem I am having...keeping hope yet keeping expectations very low.
Oh by no means am I implying this is easy... totally get that. But it does make it harder on us if we think "Ok, I will run this soup over in the cruddy weather and she will see what an amazing guy she is losing and as she eats my magical potion soup she will come to her sense and come back home"
That is simply you trying to manipulate the situation in a way right?
Like I said .. I did those things, for us guys its hard, most of us are compulsive fixers and its a very tough trait to squash because we feel like we are doing good and get frustrated when we are not rewarded for our acts of kindness. Read up on 'covert contracts' and see if this fits you.
