Another WW

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I added a signature. She is 39 and we have been married 15 years together for 17. Seems like forever.
The last kid put a strain on our marriage for about the last 2 years. We really don't have a good support system to help with the kids so we haven't made our marriage a priority and stopped going out alone because we couldn't afford a babysitter and didn't trust or have family to watch the baby. Now he is 4 and not as needy, but kinda too late damage has been done.
We are very typical, she would complain about things and then stop nagging about them for awhile, and then bring it up again. She would say things like I don't support her and I made her stay at home with the kids and she wanted to get a job because she was tired of staying st home. I always said I would rather u stay st home but if you want a job go get one. She was a teacher for 6 years before we had kids.
I don't think she has any serious complaints in my mind, basically I don't talk to her enoughnand she feels unsupported and it's always been about me and my career while she stays at home.
Like many say, I think she is unhappy with her life and takes it out on me. I know there are things I can do to show my appreciation more, etc, but it really goes both ways . I could never do enough and even though I support the entire family she never shows appreciation either of what I do for the family. We need to have more respect and gratitude for each other .