As the new year begins, my marriage will end

[job]

Whether she is a MLCer or a WAW, you would do the same things that you've been doing, i.e., allow her space, time and as little contact as possible unless it's an emergency.

Keep the focus on you!

[Canefan]

Yesterday, My W called my Mom about Christmas. They talked and my Mom told her she loved and missed her. My wife said the same. When she got home last night she was kind and talkative. We spent time together and ended up having sex. She kissed me goodnight and told me she loved me.

This morning she came over and kissed me and told me she loved me before she left for work. I am not sure if she is coming around a little or this is just part of the process. Either way, I will give the thanks and glory to God and keep moving forward.

Thanks for everyones advice and replies.

[peacetoday]

only time will tell..sometimes they cycle in and out
how old is your wife

I would continue working on yourself..

work on your changes

let her take the lead and see where it goes
try not to pressure

[Canefan]

W is 43, I am 47. Its just like a switch flipped. Ill continue working on myself and praying.

[SBJ]

Canefan...you and your W are the same age as me and my W. She is going thru the same thing, but has already moved out and filed. All I can say is keep making yourself better and maybe, by the grace of God, she will see what she really already has.

[Canefan]

SBJ,

I am sorry. Are you still standing? Did you 180?

[SBJ]

I am standing and I am trying to 180, but it is difficult changing who and what you are.

My BD was in July and she moved out and filed last month. 25 years together make this very hard, but I have faith that God has my back.

MLC/WAW/WW all are terrible, but I guess those of us that decide to stand just have to have faith that things will work out. For we walk by faith, not by sight. - 2 Corinthians 5:7.

Keep your head up and keep working.

[Canefan]

Wow. We have been together for 25 years as well. BD was in October.

Stay strong and I am praying for you.

[job]

Keep those expectations to zero or close to zero. It could be the time of the year and she's feeling like wanting to be close to you and the family at this time of the year. It could be the conversation she had w/your mother...there's no telling what is going on w/her.

I word of caution...be smart about the sex issue. Use protection because you just never know who she's actually been with. They don't think like adults, but more like teenagers and many of them end up contracting the gift that keeps on giving. Some say that they aren't haven't sex and then the spouse ends up w/something that they didn't have previously.

Stay strong, stay positive and continue to focus on you!

[Canefan]

The expectations are what I struggle the most with. Im waiting for the other shoe to drop but still holding onto hope. Thanks.