Sara...please do not make the decisions of the details of a D in your current state of mind... Not without sound legal counsel from a source not emotionally tied to your situation. As with an IC, seek one that is aligned with your values and focused on solutions for you...it may take some research, but future Sara will thank you for this... Please let the lawyer counsel you on child support...purchase of house ...etc.
You sound much like my friend who divorced over 14 years ago...he gave up everything ...and when his emotional state cleared he realized he was going to pay for a very long time.
The thoughts you share here of decisions have long term consequences and what you state goes against much of the legal, non emotional advice out there about D proceedings... D is just a business transaction...do not be hasty to make decisions based on the short term and emotions...see big picture, set emotions to side and listen to legal counsel...second opinions of legal advisors are good as well.
I do hope you can hear what I am saying and not look to confirm your posted thoughts as ones you have determined to be best...D decisions are not well served when on emotional roller coaster...please heed advice here from those before you in the journey...no need to "fumble" this and realize it down the road.
Goal is not to get all that you can from him, simply to provide what is legally right for present Sara and kids, as well as for future Sara and kids.
Your sharing of your emotional state has swung from one extreme to the other...please ensure care of Sara so that the cooler head prevails. Hint, cooler head is not the head devoid of emotions... But in a balanced state of emotions.
(((((Sara)))))
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
