Hugs, Sara. I admire your strength and will. Given your many successes in life, you'll prevail. You'll come out of this stronger and better. And your children will have a great model for integrity and perseverance.
Related to what Jim asked, how did such a great day turn into talk of D? Did your mentioning removing your hijab have anything to do with it? And if I may, why would you want to stop wearing it?
I'm new here, so I have no answers. Just questions and I feel for you and have followed your story.