Under a Big Umbrella

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Roist - thanks for the post. I appreciate your positive thoughts.

Bttrfly - I just posted onto your thread. I think other people's situations often seem crazier than our own? You amaze me!!

So, what is new over here? A touch more paranoia surfacing. A few weeks ago h said he was going to leave me some cash on the counter to pay for a repair. Except he never left it. So then he saw the charge for the bill and asked by I didn't pay w/cash. Umm. Because you never left the cash! He said I was trying to pull a fast one, all via text. I went to his room and told him he never left it for me. Then I said: "can't you just look at the money you last withdrew and see if that amount is missing?" He made no eye contact but told me from now on anytime he had to give me cash he'd hand it to me directly.

Whatever. The crazy train rolls on.

I was doing some Xmas shopping for the kids. H saw the charges and sent me a text saying I was a shopping addict! His m actually IS a shopping addict so I know whence this projection comes! She used to buy so many presents, you couldn't even see the tree!!

I went to him and told him exactly what the budget was for presents. He did his bit where he looked away and meekly said ok. (I cannot believe the contrast between who he is via text vs. who he is in-person.)

He initiated a few jokes via text. I barbed back but things have shifted within me. I can feel it.

He tried to pick a fight over the weekend. It's something that would have worked months ago. He is going to visit a friend and his wife when we go back east. The wife invited me and my sister-in-law, as my BIL will be there, too. H said none of the gals were sure they were coming. Then he asked if I wanted to go. I said, nah, you go get your guy time. He said he would get it regardless of whether I was there or not. I said, well, it doesn't sound like the gals are even sure they're going. He spewed in a sputtering way. He huffed and said I was difficult to communicate with!

I was polite and said: let's see how it shakes out. (Like I want to be THAT woman that goes and crashes a guy hang out???)

A few hours later he texted me asking if he can bring me and the kids lunch. I declined but the kids wanted some. When he came home he insisted I eat some, too. Maybe this is how he makes himself feel better for snapping at me?

Yesterday he came into the kitchen and boisterously said: "boy are YOU a lucky lady." Me (verrrry flat): "oh yeah? Any why is that?" Him: "because I bought you the best Christmas gift." Me: silence.

It's so odd that he thinks what I want would come in a neatly wrapped box.