Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 6)

[JRuss]

She was very emotional, too. I say "close to telling" just because I'm still not sure even she understands all of the "reasons" she fell out of love with me. Basically, as my depression took hold (and I didn't even know it was happening at that point), I started really deferring to her, not trusting myself, looking to her to keep me afloat, and that eventually led to her feeling not like my wife but something else that has no attraction component, and it's never come back, despite my efforts.

It is crushing, but it's been crushing for a really long time. This at least promises a change, and, maybe, an improvement. She's certainly relaxed a lot since we talked.

Next up is putting our beloved 18-year old cat down tomorrow. His kidneys have failed. It's impossible not to see in his life a metaphor for our relationship. When it rains, it pours.