Slowly losing my wife (2)

[ForGump]

I agree it shouldn't be about controlling his W. And I agree it needs to be a part of a big goal: for him and for her to be healthy, mature partners.

Lex, if you see confronting the OM as something that is going to turn your W around ... you'll be disappointed.

I don't think you have recognized that your wife has a serious problem, and that you enable her.