I'm a little shocked by these explanations and to be honest I feel like they are more excuses. Our intimacy and sexual problems started well before my father fell ill. The problem with his ex all pre-dated this.
That's because they are excuses. Remember how it is often said on here that they will look for ways to place the blame on us? Same thing here. Not your fault - never was.
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He asks me how can he know the next time something bad happens I won't react the same way? I mean, couldn't my response be how could I know you won't contact your ex again? Nobody can know these things, but part of building trust is putting things out there and committing to working on it, isn't it?
I think that is a brilliant response. May be just me, though. How do you know he won't contact - or still is - the ex?
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
