What seemed to me to be small things -- forgetting to do something she asked, or putting things in the wrong place -- she'd take as a deep, personal affront, an insult to and an assault on her self-worth. The type of things she'd get angry about, and the intensity of the anger, were astounding to me. For example, once we had just moved to a new town and she asked me where she should go get groceries. So I told her about warehouse-type store where I had gone a couple of times. An hour later, I get a call from her at work, and she is livid. She cusses me out for failing to tell her that they only take debit and cash (she had brought only her credit cards), and she hangs up on me. She stays angry at me for days. No apologies.
ForGump- She sounds like someone with real anger issues. I wonder what her childhood was like? Did she grow up in a home where explosive anger was common?
Originally Posted By: ForGump
It appears to me that your H is unwilling to let go of his ties to his ex, even though his marriage to you has reached a breaking point because of it. Whether or not his relationship to his ex is innocent, whether or not you have an anger problem, his unwillingness or inability to value his marriage to you above his relationship to his ex... that is a very bad sign. You really don't want to be married long-term, not to mention be co-parents, with someone like that. As I said, even people who enjoy a very harmonious marriage for decades wind up here in this forum. Marriage is damn hard, and I don't think you want to start your first year of marriage like this.
Your H coming home from work and going straight to the home office ... maybe he had legitimate reason to be hurt by you, but any man with any kind of a backbone, or heart, would not run away from his woman like that. He'd come talk to you. What the hell is going on. How can we resolve this. I love you.
Absolutely. I just didn't know what to make of his behavior for the longest time. I was suffering during the lowest point in my life. In my next post, I'll explain some more and give an update.
