Remember, these things aren't always planned, so don't take it as a deliberate decision on his part.
Hi Rose
Thank you.
I have a feeling they were trying.
I remember (was in July 2013) standing in a group with her there too. We were chatting about children. I wasn't saying anything, just listening. And she said that she wanted to have children, 'lots and lots of them'.
I felt at the time that her comment was directed right at me, and I remember very distinctly feeling that it was like she was stabbing me in the stomach. I can remember everything about that moment, it was so overwhelming and painful.
I think it was something that he talked about with her in the 9 odd months before, as their EA/PA started and gathered speed.
He never talked to me about it, in all the years we were M. But then, he wasn't very good at bringing up anything that was troubling him. I was the one who could bring things up and talk about them. I learned to do that in the course of our M. He just never knew how to deal with any negative feelings he might have about something/someone. So he just let them lie and they just festered in him (maybe even for years).